Hi. My husband and I were recently told that we could not have children without in-vetro or other interventions. (We can’t conceive naturally.) We are in our late 30’s and weren’t sure about having children in the first place so really, we are relieved. The problem is other people. If we are asked if we have kids, we say no. Then we are asked why, to which we simply say, “We can’t have children”. We receive a flood of options, stories and other unwanted opinions and advice. How can we politely tell folks we really don’t want their advice on this subject?
Do gooders. Un-wanted opinion givers, if you will. Not a fan myself but hey, to each their own. So, what to say to these overzealous baby lovers? Nothing. You don't need to explain your position or yourselves. If you are comfortable saying 'We can't have children', great. If one wants to give you an opinion like that, smile and nod. Your lack of answer should be a pretty clear indication that you don't want to talk about it. If it's not a clear indication a nicely toned, "we'd rather not discuss it" is appropriate. Enjoy your baby-less lives...you deserve to live with or without children, whatever makes you happiest.
Wishing You the Best-
Maggie
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